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Old Jan 25, 2014, 10:09 AM
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I guess you have to make a plan for what you'd like (go to doctor and actually get yourself you go?), figure out what sort of night jobs there are (hotel clerk? night watchman?) and work toward them and decide if you want to learn to form relationships with others or not. No one is automatically good at such things, we have to learn. True, some people are born more sociable or have circumstances work more toward one way than another but everyone has to identify and decide to take advantage of their own personal attributes, resources, and circumstances and muddle through learning and striving toward what they decide they want.

Can you join some social groups online (like this one, welcome! :-) and get a little practice "meeting" people, getting your thoughts out and what you want to say when you meet people in person and what your problems are and whether other people have had and worked on those problems, etc.? I don't know how old you are; I was 39 before I got married because of my anxieties and social ineptness, it took me that long to get my act together
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