I do not see the therapist as ever having provided understanding or measures to better myself etc. I don't know exactly what an intervention is.
The woman has said things to me like "you do not being humiliated" - which, while true, is scarcely insightful or surprising or the result of exceptional intelligence. Most people do not like being humiliated. I already knew I did not like being humiliated.
Sometimes she has said "everyone does x" like it matters to me how many people have done something. I usually recognize I am not unique and the context is not one where I am lamenting that I am the only one who ever did or felt or had done to X. I get it if she means "quit talking about x because it is the human condition" but other than that, I have no idea why it would matter to me how many others do the same thing. Is that her attempt at intervention? Empathy? Shutting me down
I do ask her, and she refuses to answer - which is why I have more than one - I go ask them and get various responses that I can at least build a framework from. Usually my response - is "really? that is what that was supposed to do? I cannot imagine that approach would work."
So while I do not find these sorts of responses useful in any fashion(and I am not looking for comments on my approach), I do wonder if others find them so? Do others find the therapist talking in such ways useful and how so? Is it their stating the obvious that is useful?
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Last edited by stopdog; Jan 25, 2014 at 11:31 AM.
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