It depends, what topic we are on, sometimes I tell her that I just want to vent and for her to listen, and not to tell me we have to process what I just said.

Sometimes she will say ok, but it needs to be processed and we will go back to it, meaning she will give me feedback. Usually I want feedback, I like to debate and challenge. If my viewpoint is irrational or maladaptive, I just dont want them saying it, I want proof. I want to know how they came to that conclusion.

There are times when I cant articulate things, being that she knows me verbal and non verbally, most of the time, she knows whats bothering me, I call that an intervention for me.

thats why I think the communication is very important to me.