it is sometimes hard to love ourselves sometimes we have to learn how first by learning different coping skills etc... then we will be able to shine our light to others. your experiences are included in all this, you can teach others how once you learn, but you probably are not at that stage yet, it takes time, trial and error. it is scarry at first, but as we age also we learn new skills on our own or with the help of others we are close to. i was at a point where i was a single mother at one point, had to learn to take care of my 4 yr old son and i ended up getting married. things happen day by day and we have to take it one day at a time. soon your son will be older before your own eyes. you can do it, it just takes time is what i'm trying to say.