I have no meditation nor book recommends, and I am far from the ideal advice giver in how-to break up. Sure, I divorced, but alas, that was brought about by a constable and reasons, not close to what I am reading here.

I hear you, about being better at writing, than face to face sit down and confront, not that I haven't gotten better, at that, through the years. But heart to heart conversations, take two willing participants, which you h doesn't sound like he's any more able to have that type of give and take relationship.

Since, letter writing, did result, in a complete ignoring of your concerns and your inner voice, I am not certain, writing him anything, will be any different, all these years later.

So, I am left thinking about a list. Pro's/Con's of the marriage. And with a blunt statement, to him, verbally, and perhaps, even with papers already drawn up, state it simply. And, if he can't recognize that, then I, am, also, at a complete loss, as to what to do or say.