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Originally Posted by Willowleaf
I am a little confused. Is she saying that this isn't happening with other clients. Last time I was the only one affected and it seems, by her email, to be the same this time. I appreciate her honesty in saying that there seems to be something going on subconsciously here, but I'm not sure how this is something I am doing. Yes, it feeds into my belief people can't be trusted. You always get let down somehow, but surely she needs to take ownership of this? The annoying thing is it really doesn't matter. The crux of the matter is she is away now for 2 sessions and this will not affect her at all. I am the one left picking up the pieces and coping on my own with little warning. I know I will cope but just after a long break at Christmas it is a real worry.
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I think she is taking at least half of the ownership and is curious as to how and why it has happened with you. It is not that you are untrustworthy and she is not untrustworthy. Please don't blame yourself for this as it is something in the dynamic between you two. I think it is something that you both need to discuss and I hear an invitation in there from her for you to talk about it next session.
I think she is as surprised as you that it is the second time it has happened. Something similar happened to me with my last t. She forgot about my sessions twice and I of course felt abandoned and unimportant- something I always feel around other people. T wondered how it had happened and she said that she did care and was important to her and in fact she was concentrating on me too much and so much so that it was to my detriment because she was so focused on what we had discussed that she forgot to write my next appt in her diary. Do you think something could have distracted her whilst she was scheduling your next date?