None of the therapists i've ever seen have came up with anything ground-breakingly new to me, on occasions, thru talking around and around over a subject i'll be directed to seeing a pattern or theme or reason for what I'm questioning.
I hate the normalising thing, just because something i do or feel is common for others doesn't mean it is "normal", and also i am not stupid, i am very aware that there's nothing on this planet that i do or say or feel or experience that is unique to only me.

What does help, for me at least, is just being given the space to tell my story, to process it, for someone to truly see me and accept me and respond with kindness. THat it what is healing to me. To have someone set aside 1 hour just for me. To sit with me and explore all the feelings i have which are often all mixed up and conflicting and don't always make sense. They sit with me thru it and often state the obvious, dripping in constant messages of empathy, support, safety, assurance that i'm not going to drown in it all, that i'm an ok human being. I can let my defences down for that one hour and be safe. They can basically soothe me while i allow the torment inside to be externalised. Yes, what they say is obvious, because on some level i know my thinking and feelings are distorted but i need to hear those obvious statements, i need to see myself reflected back via them and allow for that positivity to get thru and somehow mend the cracks my childhood left behind.
For me, that's where the healing is. It is in the obvious but positive statement, it is in the soothing tones and words and in the reassurances. Sometimes they join up the dots or point something out when i can't see the wood from the trees but 95% of the time it's the other stuff that helps.