Well, if I could understand such a thing of a partner (and have done) then I'd say there's a good chance that a good number of other guys are the same way. Have faith.

Do you get any professional help, like a psychiatrist, a psychologist, or a counselor? I really think you might want to bring up these intimacy issues (sorry, I'm presuming that's generally what it is) and see if you can mend some fallen bridges. My therapist is giving me CBT for my OCD, so I don't think it's appropriate to open up this sort of stuff with her, but the moment I get some more rounded help, it's something I'd love to challenge, ... but on the other hand, it has made me respectful, appreciative, and understanding, so maybe I should just deal with it - when you (general) find someone who "gets it", it really isn't all as much of a problem, or at least, that's how it was for me. I know there are women out there who "get it"; they're just very hard to find, as I'm sure it is with guys.