I was talking about taking away your internet access altogether. That you interpreted it to mean taking away your access to porn was a very very funny Freudian slip which means that you haven't cured yourself of your porn addiction. You are not watching porn, but you are so preoccupied with it that you think that all people use the net for is to watch porn. Your suggestion for me to use my imagination was especially funny since I do not watch porn due to the fact that I I found it to be exceedingly stupid. Not that I explored at length, but what I saw was too stupid for me to continue. So I use my imagination, which is wonderful, and not because I am desperate but because I love myself and love to do good things for myself. Plus, how my cheeks glow and eyes glisten afterwards are both delightful to see.

What you are exhibiting is very similar to what an alcoholic who went through the 12 steps program but has not really cured the addiction exhibit. They do not consume at all for fear of not being able to stop after drinking a moderate dose. They are very preachy. They are sometimes preoccupied with turning the world into a big sobriety workshop. And, their views are extreme with no middle ground. To which I say - you are not healed. You are still an alcoholic, just an abstaining one (often only temporarily abstaining). If you want to know what me8 to really recover and not be an alcoholic, you can take me as your example. I try to drink one glass of wine a day for health benefits or sometimes two, and in a social gathering I might drink up to three glasses but never more, and I retain good judgment and am a pleasant conversationalist throughout moderate drinking. I never get drunk but I also never try to get drunk because I stop at a moderate dose. I do not tell anybody to stop drinking and do not tell stories about how hard I try to abstain because I do not abstain - I drink optimal amounts of wine. So if you can be like me - drinking moderately and behaving appropriately WITHOUT PREACHING, then you are not an alcoholic. If you cannot be like me, then you are still an alcoholic. You are an abstaining alcoholic who finds it so hard to abstain that hr is triggered by Pellegrino bottles.

I hope the analogy is extra clear so I won't offend you by making a parallel case for sex because it would be spoon feeding. Well, ok, to make sure you see the point - Nonsexual use of the Internet is your Pellegrino bottle.

I do recommend you rethink the current approach because it is positively useless. I have not been in your shoes so I have no experience treating your problem and am simply observing that what gives you an illusion of a solution is not effective.