I realize, you are feeling awful, right now, it comes across in your post.

Your posting screams out, what happened, what did I do wrong, why won't he come back, because his casting you aside, after all this build up relationship, is enough for anyone to react in an OCD type manner. You are screaming for answers for something, that just doesn't appear to make any sense. Yet, I'll tell you one thing, sure you may have texted and called one too many times, yes, but I'd err on the side, of this man, was not quite who he claimed to be, even if his phone call persona and online person matched up in person.

You took a vacation, elsewhere, from either home base, together. He wanted to know what you were wearing, every day?! Oh my!! He had to call you from a closet, to talk to you?!?! My radar is screaming one thing, that isn't even brought forth here!! He is either married, or very taken and living with another woman, is my first impression. And I am sorry, to write like this while you are in pain, but sometimes, the flags aren't always visible, whilst in a saddened state of mind.