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Originally Posted by eskielover
That biological hardwiring however is for reproduction.....& also with the chemicals that are released during the sexual act, it causes bonding to the person you are having sex with (studies have been done on these facts). Sex was not created for recreation, but for re-creation.....& a way to bond the two together in an even more loving relationship even though recreation is the way humans have taken it.
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Eskie, as a former firmware engineer, you should be able to observe the world around you and draw conclusions from those observations. We know that the divorce rate is high. Were sex so bond-increasing, people would grow increasingly attached in marriage, all of them, but in reality some do and some don't. Also, sometimes studies are done on mice, and do not necessarily translate into the human world. One would need to actually read the studies and examine their design to actually say something reliably.
The recreation and re-creation IS a nice play on words, but in reality that dichotomy does not exist. Not all sex that is not intended for reproduction is for recreation. People have sex for all sorts of reasons, as you should be able to see even if you simply read this forum. People might be lonely, afraid of being abandoned, using sex as a security blanket, to relieve anxiety, out of fear that otherwise their partner would run off, to get promoted or to receive a coveted contract, to appreciate how their partner did a time consuming home improvement project, simply to appreciate their partner for what a nice person they are, to obtain medically proven health benefits of sex, to deal with the fear of death, to use bdsm for emotional trauma healing, out of compulsion, out of a sense of obligation to have conjugal relations with the spouse, due to peer pressure, etc.
Most of those I do not do, but I read and take note, and see that people do all kinds of things. Add Tantra and what they dub sacred sexuality. I saw a picture on which many heterosexual couples were each sexually united and all of it stylized in a Hindu fashion. Weird? Weird. I mean - to me it is funny and I will for now stay within the Western definition of sexuality, but, funny as it is for me, I do appreciate that it is completely benign. And, my point is, to people participating in all of that, it doesn't mean recreation, but means something that is in their minds spiritual, whatever that word means to them.
So again the pun is good as a pun, but does not even begin to capture the reality.