((Jkw223)),

I was told a long time ago that most people in jobs that are exposed to "traumatic" scenarios constantly, only last about 5 years.

Maybe your husband might want to consider a career change? It doesn't mean he is not man enough if seeing the worst in humanity constantly has taken a toll on him. I personally can't imagine having to see this part of humanity daily and not getting to a point where it takes it's toll. Often people get into this type of work because they respect human rights and want to be a part of working on protecting people. The problem is that it isn't at all like the programs we see on TV, often it is much harder to get "true justice and get the bad guy".

Most of the first responders in the Newtown Tragedy are battling PTSD and probably will not be able to go back to working in that field.

IMHO, the best way you can be supportive is to listen and validate him, and sit next to him and gently rub up and down his back for him as touch is "very important" no matter what age someone is.

He is going to have to come to some kind of understanding in his mind that "yes" people do horrific things to each other, even to innocent children. He may not have the ability to deal with that fact every day, not many people "can" and many develop PTSD.