What are your options? You could leave him completely. Or you could plan for a (temporary) separation. Or you can change the way that you think about yourself, your feelings, or about him. Is it worth it to you - to spend any time with him (for the fun, companionship)? Or does his attitude result in you feeling lousy about yourself? Why put yourself through that? Sounds like he just isn't growing up - in his views about other people and relationships (or others' feelings). And if you're always there for him, why would he change? If he's looking for the perfect woman - it's in his mind (or what he's learned) - and who can ever live up to that? Why invest your time with someone who doesn't accept you?