Sorry Helm, that wasn't very helpfull.
I'm not meaning to take your post. You musn't stay with someone for fear of what might happen if you don't. If you are not compelled to stay for a higher reason then you are doing everyone a disservice, you and your partner.

I broke it off with my man tonight. Again. I love him dearly however his issues are too big for me. I can't interface with him when he is off on his .. I don't know where he goes in his head but it sure is hard to connect. So good is so bad. I can't do it as much as I wish it weren't so.

Helm, I have used this analogy here before: in training for water rescue if you can not solicit cooperation from whomever you are seeking to help then you place yourself at risk. We are instructed to tell them you will swim away if they will not cooperate. A double drowning is a real potential in such circumstances. You can only estimate your own capacity, the other has no idea that their actions will take you both down. Self preservation is a first priority. Do what you must.

Regards Frances.