Does anyone have any recommendations for books or websites about how to have normal give and take conversations? I seem to attract people who just want to talk my ear off. I'd like to read about some techniques to politely bring those conversations back towards a give and take.

I read the 'Fine Art of Small Talk' last year and found it had some good tips for starting conversations with strangers, but I'm looking for something that has more to do with communicating with friends and family. Thanks!