So what if you are being selfish? Who is going to take care of you when you become homeless and he is gone with the wind? If you had the means to take care of his family, then perhaps that would be the choice for your charitable contributions, but as it is, you can barely take care of yourself. If he is drinking and not willing to help or get help, what part of "get out now" dont you understand? How long have they all been living with you? This is not a good example he is setting for his boys. Pack up their stuff and tell them not to come back, you are in dire straits. If they were going to help you, they would already have been pitching in.