Hi,

I'm a 23 year old female and I'm very scared that I'm suffering from some kind of problem. I never considered it until now but the pattern of my relationships and emotions has become hard to ignore. I have listed several of the things I notice about myself and my life. Could someone please tell me if this could be cause for concern?I don't really have anyone else to talk to. The list I compiled is as follows. I really appreciate any guidance.

1- Avoiding conflict, and once conflict is created, avoiding making up with people and freezing them out.
2- Uncomfortable showing emotions or getting angry because I feel like I won’t be taken seriously or respected for my feelings.
3- Very unstable and easily hurt feelings and ego.
4- Fear of becoming an insecure partner in future relationships because of past relationships.
5- Sometimes trouble with fine, coordinated movements, speaking to groups and carrying out tasks when nervous or anxious. (Shaky fingers, muddled thoughts, blood rushes to face and I feel hot and disoriented)
6- Insecure about myself and my achievements and feel the need to put others’ choices down to make myself feel better.
7- Day dreaming about being more productive and a better life but never following through with the plans.
8- Get easily complacent and can very easily slip into doing nothing, speaking to no one and staying alone when left alone for a few days. I spent most of my college senior year sleeping from 6 am to 6 pm and missing many classes and seeing and speaking to no one for days on end. I ended up doing well, but still.

9- Deals with anger by freezing out the subject of concern and acting cold and distant.
10- Constant feelings of friendlessness and loneliness but flake out on plans with people I’m not completely comfortable with.
11- Easily intimidated by those that are better looking or better accomplished.
12- Cannot decisively point out that many good qualities and special talents about myself. Find myself unremarkable with nothing special to say or contribute to any relationships.
13- Fear of becoming a cheater in future relationships because of insecurity and past careless behavior.
14- Not able to genuinely empathize or understand people for certain situations and get overly emotional in other situations.
15- Behave and act selfishly and cannot handle things not going my way
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