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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
I know I have to tell her how I feel...I guess I just don't know how. Also, I'm scared she'll start acting more distant if I tell her that because maybe it's not healthy for me to be dependent on her (even though I don't think I actually am - I've been making a lot of really good changes on my own and doing really well lately, but I don't want her to THINK I'm dependent on her). Although that's probably just my old issues talking...
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Yeah - is it your "being dependent" (whatever that means) that gets you into trouble, or was it your wanting to be seen, be recognized as a person with needs, that was met with such misery in the past? I went thru a period where i just kept asking my t if this was okay - whether it was a hug, or a change in schedule time, or whatever - i couldnt believe it was okay. Because before, nothing was okay. Its our ts job and aim to stick with us until our mindset believes it is now okay - which takes a while.