Hm...maybe both...but I guess the real thing is using people in a way that isn't appropriate, like for example if I wanted my T to be my mother or my friend or something (which I don't, but did in the past with former Ts). I think right now I've coded her more as "supportive, safe, caring adult in my life" as opposed to "T" (although I guess what the role of a T is isn't necessarily so clear cut). And also that I feel like the role of a T is probably to help their clients to become independent instead of encouraging dependency, so in my mind this means that she's supposed to be there for me for fifty minutes a week and that's all, and the rest of the time, it's up to me to deal with stuff on my own.

For example, I've called her maybe four or five times between sessions over the past two months or so, and this week I dealt with something difficult in a really mature way and was super proud of it and naturally she was the first person I wanted to tell, but our session isn't until Tuesday, so I wanted to call and leave a message (which I've done once before, which she didn't seem to mind...). But then I didn't want her to think I needed her, especially since I didn't; I WANTED to tell her that thing but I also figured it could wait until Tuesday, so I slept on it and the desire to call her somewhat diminished. But mostly situations like that where I don't want her to feel like I'm relying on her too much...