In my mind, breaching someone's boundaries = wrong. Even though logically I know that it's her responsibility to clarify her boundaries if she thinks I'm not respecting them...part of me expects myself to "know better" and if I'm not sure, then just not to do it (which is why I didn't call her this week). I WILL bring it up with her though. I guess I could just tell her the thing I wanted to call her and tell her, and then just say I wanted to call but was worried about boundaries/dependence/attachment, etc.

That part maybe isn't the issue so much as telling her how much I appreciate how she was there for me when I told her all this stuff, which I think is important for me to tell her precisely because it's so hard for me. That entails making yourself vulnerable because in the past when I've told other people how much I appreciated them or cared about them or even (the horror!) NEEDED them, they went away. I mean, obviously I know T isn't going to go away (most people with an IQ over 80 don't go away from people who are paying them $110 for a fifty minute hour), but even though I know our relationship isn't going to end, there's a part of me that is irrationally certain that it's going to change for the worse if I tell her this.