I am sorry that your sister is not being very understanding or supportive to you. Your hurt and anger do ring a bell to me.

You are correct. You can only be yourself. You can, of course, work on bad habits (that we ALL have, as no one is perfect). Like if loud voices really bother her, you could try your best to remember not to talk too loudly around her....that kind of thing can be done, to an extent.

If your sister is refusing to give you attention, let her go for now. She will come back when she is ready to talk with you. Then, you two may sit down (or take a quiet walk together) somewhere and talk about what happened. Try to talk about how YOU feel, without saying anything against her. Like, "I feel really frustrated and hurt because it feels like you don't respect me." Or whatever. Then, let your sister respond to you. Try to repeat what you hear her saying to you. {This shows that you're listening and it gives her an opportunity to fix any mistakes in wording that she may have made.} You can then respond to the new information that you have been given. But, work it in the same way. I am ___ because I feel ____.

Human beings make mistakes. We often misinterpret one another ~ one may become offended and the other gets hurt; or etc. The real trick is trying to work through these problems whenever we can. We work on our ends while they work on theirs, and the relationships grow stronger as a result. That strength is the reward for our work.

I hope that this hasn't hurt your feelings or upset you. I am just passing on some tips that have really helped me. Best wishes to you!