I think loving yourself starts with pride. First, find something about yourself that you are proud of. Then extend it. Realize that you are a unique person and are every bit as important as everyone else in the world. Learn to forgive yourself. Be proud of the fact that you can see and accept your flaws. Acknowledge them, but don't identify with them. You must see the good in yourself and identify with that. It doesn't matter what anyone else says about you or even thinks about you. All that matters is living your life your way and not feeling bad about doing that. Be proud of who you are. Fall in love with your way of thinking, with your very essence. Once you recognize your uniqueness is a gift to the world and has very real and true value, you will find your worth. Find meaning in your life. Be your own master and serve yourself, not others. The way to do all this is to use your willpower.