RDPSTL,

I was married for 20 years and divorced a few years back. Thankfully I am still very close with my x. She was my saving grace when it came to dealing with my BP. What I learned through the process is there is nothing you can do to make someone address and deal with BP. We have to want to take that step ourselves. For me it was when I went through a major depressive episode. I hit rock bottom and basically gave up and said to my x I will do whatever I need to do...just help me.

The most important thing is to be supportive. (as frustrating as that can be) Secondly, make sure you take care of yourself through the process. If you are strong, solid and consistent it will give your wife a place to feel comfortable and safe. (my x was that for me) Finally, I would recommend reading some books on living with someone who is bipolar...I have shared a few books with family members so they can have a small understanding an insight into our twisted world. Best of luck!