Reading your account, I was angered on your behalf that your therapist would name call and label you for what she apparently sees as an ineffective treatment. As I read, it seems like she's blaming you for her modality and her shortcomings. This isn't working, so it must be the client's defects.

I don't know who decides what's normal and what is defective to start with. We are dependent, interdependent and social creatures. I assume most people on the planet have hurts, yearnings and needs. If attachments didn't make us crazy there wouldn't be all those love songs, and everyone else wouldn't need to listen to them. Relationships sometimes can be difficult and complicated. So who determines what is too deep an "attachment issue"?

In recovering from my therapist's bullying, it was helpful for me to see him for what he was, not a judge, not an authority of anything, but a vulnerable man who went to graduate school, learned a lot of terms and protocol, then hung a shingle claiming he suddenly had the power to heal other people's lives. (Though I found nothing but regression in therapy, I found growth in other ways, including time and experience.)

I'm angry when someone pins labels on me. It's not constructive, and it's tactless. It doesn't teach me or help my growth. That would be exponential if I had opened myself up to someone, thinking them an authority figure. A professional is acting like a mean kid in third grade who doesn't know better.

If I were in your position, I'd try to assess whether it would be constructive to talk about the rupture. Therapists ideally advise to do that. Some can handle it, some can't though. In my case, the therapist continued to pin the blame on me, and trying to talk to him was like poking a rattlesnake. Other therapy clients had a "you hurt me" conversation, the therapist admitted the error, and both went forward strengthened.

There's the dating cliche, it's not you; it's me. Reading your account I thought that's what she should have admitted.