I think you have to have a true inner desire for change for it to work. But that doesn't mean you will always be totally motivated. I don't think that is even possible. I view it like when I used to run marathons. I had a goal in mind and I was serious about achieving that goal and doing the training required to do so. But there were still Saturdays when I woke up and said " why the heck am I spending my Saturday running 28 miles??????" And absolutely lacked any desire whatsoever. Bc I had the goal in mind I'd do the work even though I didn't want to.

I view therapy the same way. I have goals and am serious about achieving them. But I still have days where I don't want to go to therapy, examine my feelings, try to change my behavior s or thought patterns etc etc. I try anyway even if I feel like quitting, even if my try is half hearted and lame.

I go on the saying ( I think it's from Aristotle)" excellence is not a single act, but a habit. We become what we do every day"

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