I agree with the others who have identified that this is an issue with your T as a therapist, and not you as a client or schema therapy as a modality. I have very strong attachment issues (so strong that I tipped my T off even before we started working together that she wouldn't be able to cope) and schema therapy takes those into account. However, schema therapy is only as healing as the therapist is willing to fully deliver it. It sounds like your T is quite structured and rigid, and perhaps is uncomfortable with some aspects of the therapy. She may be clinging onto the cognitive restructuring aspect, because that suits her personality and approach, but is holding out on the experiential elements (e.g. imagery rescripting), and on reparenting, which is core in schema therapy.

Schema therapy only works for me because my T is willing and able to deliver *all* aspects of it. However, she's only able to do that because of her natural tendencies and abilities as a person and a therapist. She is high in warmth, tends towards flexibility, and is willing to reparent. She isn't wary or afraid of my feelings, or of her own. She is willing to love me within the frame of therapy because she knows that is what heals.

I'm so sorry the T you love and trust has hurt you. I know what that is like. This is not about your limitations but hers. I hope you can find a T who isn't afraid to be what you need her to be.