I'd have to say it definitely sounds normal to have low self-esteem when going through emotional turmoil, especially due to something like a relationship crisis. I think if you're having trouble feeling attractive to your mate, for whatever reason and in whatever way, you feel unattractive to the rest of the world. And yes, those air-brushed, photoshopped models in all the ads are not doing anyone any favors.

I think the point Michanne mentioned about knowing yourself isn't just for finding a long term partner. When you know yourself and have confidence in who you are, then you won't be as concerned with looking attractive to other people. You'll feel beautiful, know you're beautiful -- inside and out -- and not go searching for acceptance or approval from others. I realize this is much easier said than done, but I do still believe it, even if I'm not 100% confident in myself a lot of the time either. It's definitely a lot of work and not an easy journey, but I think it's worth it.

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time right now.