He needs to be a supportive loving partner, not someone who doles out put-downs like mad/crazy.

hvert raised a valid point with this, "only thing you are doing wrong is thinking he will change if you can just get it right for once."

It's hard to say, if divorce is your best option, or not. Takes some healing work, to reach a point where you have a definitive answer. Since you wrote, "do I swallow pain and go on,or rebel and end up divorcing?", I am left feeling, as though, you haven't reached a point of making a decision, one way or the other.

Is staying, truly, swallowing pain? Is divorcing, truly, rebelling?