Thread: It was a mistake to come visit my mum
View Single Post
 
Old Jan 27, 2014, 11:53 PM
dinosaurs's Avatar
dinosaurs dinosaurs is offline
Grand Member
  
Member Since: Nov 2007
Location: on the path to healing
Posts: 785
I can learn to accept that's what she's like and that she won't fill the needs I want her to. But if she ignores everything I say, why would I even want to be near her. That is just invalidating and toxic and soul destroying. I desperately want to be with her. But why would you continue to see someone who does not fill any needs. I don't understand.
__________________
He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
Reply With QuoteReply With Quote