I thought about my position in this situation.When we got married I completely devoted myself to him,tried to please him,but he was moody then too( I had anorexia,which i got over with fast,I understood him as a man feeling repulsed and ashamed,but I was also hurt by his coldness and rejection).Slowly over the years I suppressed my desires and eagerness to show my love to him,because in majority of cases I was" always choosing inappropriate time (he is reading/in front of computer/watching TV)",while forgetting that his parents and kids don't give us any privacy.Bottom line I don't know if I have any intimate feelings left,other then caring for him and I do think of divorce quite a bit,though I do not approve it in general.If he could only be able to listen and get my point of view..,start all over again ,give each other respect and time,attention,we might be happy