Yes. We fight differently.

Like everyone else said, nobody is right or wrong in these situations, it is what it is.

He leaves, because that's what he needs, but you follow, preventing him from getting what he needs, to demand that he meet your needs.

I used to do that too

Can you spell BACKFIRE! Omg that just lead to longer silences, because everytime I interrupted with a call, message or appearing as if by magic, I caused him a major setback in his processing time. Which then meant I was freaking out for longer periods too.

Retarded I know

What do I do now? Like Perna said, I respect that he's attempting to meet a need of his, and while I needed to vent, I realized that I didn't NEED to vent in his presence.

I have a *****ing journal now, its where I vent to my heart's content, after a fight and if I need a response (which is amazingly rare) I tell a friend. Once he's calmed down and emerged from his man cave and I've scribbled lots of profanities, we address things camly.

Its not about learning to fight the same, its about learning to fight fair.