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Syra · Jan 28, 2014, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by lbdrox

So you're saying I shouldn't expect it to change, ever?

I'm sorry. THat's not what I meant to imply at all, but I wasn't very clear. It just made sense to me that seeing him again would bring up all kinds of stuff. And I understand how confusing that could be while you are in another relationship that you like, and don't want this kind of disruption. That's what makes perfect sense. And I don't think the fact that you turn into mush when you see him needs to mean anything about your new dating relationship.

I expect it will change. I would expect that one day you might wake up and realize you aren't as troubled by it as you were a week ago, or yesterday, or last year. or you might notice slow, subtle changes. Both might happen. slow changes and then all of a sudden noticing a big change.

I also get the idea that maybe stopping and saying "hi" would help things. I wonder if it feels like saying "hi" would then get rid of the fear of facing him again. That makes sense.

I thought I was over someone once - only for them to reappear in my life and disrupt things again. That actually happened several times. Each time I got little bit less disrupted. It's easier to handle. I can articulate more about what is going on for me. and I even learn and grow from the crummy experience of seeing them again.