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(((Laliquepsych)))
I understand the desire to carry on a blood-line, but your bf's mother needs to get off her high horse. A "healthy" baby is not a guarantee, even with two healthy parents with healthy families.
She's concerned about the schizophrenia. How would she feel if her "blood" grandchild was born with, say, Down's syndrome with a serious heart defect and developmental disabilities? Or maybe a grandchild with a huge and inoperable cleft palate? Would she have the capacity to be a loving grandmother - and would that "blood" child be considered an important member of the family?
If you and your bf are fully willing to take that risk, she should have no say in the matter. Regardless of the outcome, the child would be a "blood" grandchild for her to love. If you're not willing to take the risk and choose to adopt, the child would STILL be a grandchild for her to love.
If your bf is unwilling or unable to go against his mother's wishes, there is nothing you can do. If you force him to turn his back on his mother, it would most likely only cause him (and you) more heartache and pain.
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