Wow. So sorry! To be honest, I am usually the friend that "goes away." The reason is because I split and start devaluing the person I thought was completely perfect and all I can think about is getting them out of my life. It's that black and white thing. I am very hard to deal with even though I am very, very generous with everything...time, money, listening....I eventually can't take it anymore and feel the other person is giving me nothing in return and I am outta there.