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Originally Posted by bridgie
so its been a week. i havent messaged him he hasnt messaged me. i miss him. i know its not healthy to dwell on someone that doesnt want me but here i am doing it.
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It has taken me over a year and the questions still creep into my head about why things happened the way they did. I wasn't in a physical relationship with him, but the emotional connection was strong and things ended in a very unsettling way for me. I put an end to it when his contact with me became infrequent.
Time helps. It will get better. I still dwell, but the hurt is less as things move forward. It helps to discuss when you need to; cry when you need to; move on when you need to. There is no set framework for this sort of thing.
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Originally Posted by bridgie
look its been a month since weve been apart but a week since he messaged me last it shouldnt bother me this much for this long. it was only a few months out of my life.
how do you stop this train of thought when it just brings you down.
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You don't. The more you try, the harder it is. I've stopped beating myself up over it. I just have to let it be. If my initial reaction is "why?", I try to turn it into "well, isn't that interesting?" When my feelings are acknowledged, they are more likely to drift off rather than hanging around constantly knocking on my forehead shouting "pay attention to me!"
I made my decision to stop contacting him. Tough. Once it began to set in, the days began to grow shorter...less harsh. Now, he sometimes floats to mind. I wave hello and often he floats away as quickly as he arrived.
I can deal with that now.
I wish you all the best with this journey. It won't be easy. You will struggle. But as the days pass, things will change. You will heal.