I get what you're saying. I had a male mentor once that I ended up feeling a certain way towards. But he was married and I knew that. So I ignored it (pretty well, actually). I didn't know then that this was just transference, but knowing what I do now, it makes perfect sense. I have seen him a handful of times (maybe 5?) in the past two years, and those feelings still return. They don't bother me so much and I have come to accept that they point to a deeper need of a male authority figure to treasure and love me now that I know what they are, but so far, it hasn't gone away or gotten much better. Hopefully eventually it will.