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~EnlightenMe~ · Jan 28, 2014, 04:26 PM

It sounds to me like your therapist doesn't know how to allow you to have your feelings, no matter what the cause, because when you tell her how much you need her, she tells you that maybe you should see another therapist. This is a nightmare for people with abandonment fears (myself included), and in my opinion, heightens emotions. What I'm guessing you are looking for is someone to trust, and bringing up the possibility that you might need to see another therapist because you are freely discussing how you feel is, possibly recreating whatever situation you may be enacting. You say she has really helped you in a crisis situation, but it appears that she is triggering a crisis, just my opinion. I stayed with my first long-term therapist for seven years and went through termination because of my fears, because he didn't know how to help me, and I ended up worse. I now work with a therapist who is helping me feel secure, not once has he threatened to leave because of how I feel. The first therapist tried to help, but with my current therapist, I feel like he understands me and knows how to respond to me in a safe manner. I hope you do look for other therapists, there is one out there who won't do this to you repeatedly. If you stay, I hope that you make sure that she knows how much she IS hurting you by how she is reacting when she tells you that maybe you need to see another therapist. Please keep us posted.