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Old Jan 28, 2014, 05:55 PM
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Originally Posted by unlockingsanity View Post
Even if it's mutual, I think that there is still going to be a lot of hurt and pain because who in REAL LIFE do we ever really say goodbye to like this?

A friend who moves away? We'd still talk to them on the phone or Facebook.

Someone who dies? We know our therapists are still out there....

I really hope it's not a terrible process when both agree to it, because I know that it's in my future.

The only positive thing I've had from a termination session was saying everything I wanted to say before it was over. Even then, down the road, you wish you would have said something different. For me, I would have realized that it was my T who was a douche, not me.
You put your finger on a key point here. Terminating with a T leaves the door half open. It has neither the permanence of a death nor the gradual tail-off of a real relationship.

Had we been on better terms, I might have eased out by seeing her less frequently.

It would have been better to have simply cut her off, but I thought I would save myself some guilt by following the rules. So instead of feeling guilty at a quick ending I feel cheated by a slow one.
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