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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
Hmm...I think her boundaries, although a little strict and definitely painful, are normal for some T's. It sounds like she really wants you to be comfortable on your own, and although I get that, I know that approach wouldn't work for me. I have spent my life alone, and since my T knows that, she makes sure to emphasize that she is always available to me when I feel like I want to or need to talk to her.
Are these boundaries you are willing to deal with? If so, it's time to accept them and only bend them when necessary. If not, then consider finding a T whose boundaries work better with what you need.
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Maybe I felt like she wasn't really being fair to me and then I got defensive...because I AM fine on my own; I have other supports and I don't NEED her; I just wanted to call her and leave a message to share something with her, which is a pretty normal(?) thing to want to do with someone you trust who has seen you through this journey. I've been making A LOT of progress on my own recently, so maybe I felt like she was sort of discounting that by telling me (although she didn't really tell me this; just my interpretation) that what I was doing was STILL overstepping, no matter how much progress I've already made.