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Originally Posted by wife22
I thought about my position in this situation.When we got married I completely devoted myself to him,tried to please him,but he was moody then too( I had anorexia,which i got over with fast,I understood him as a man feeling repulsed and ashamed,but I was also hurt by his coldness and rejection).Slowly over the years I suppressed my desires and eagerness to show my love to him,because in majority of cases I was" always choosing inappropriate time (he is reading/in front of computer/watching TV)",while forgetting that his parents and kids don't give us any privacy.Bottom line I don't know if I have any intimate feelings left,other then caring for him and I do think of divorce quite a bit,though I do not approve it in general.If he could only be able to listen and get my point of view..,start all over again ,give each other respect and time,attention,we might be happy
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That's where the inner conflict comes from, about staying or leaving. Time spent, not just coming to understand ourselves, perhaps even more self-vilification than necessary((*raising hand* I am better at tearing myself a new one, than anyone else, could ever possibly come close to)), and at the same time, looking at our partners with a sense of compassion and empathy that could outrival, even Mother Theresa.
Sounds, like he can either recognize the seriousness of your unmet needs, loneliness within the marriage or he can ignore the fact, that your marriage has seemingly hit a brick wall.
