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Originally Posted by Elektra_
oh i understand u. this T i have doesnt let me call or email ever. and i had to suck it up when i was used to be able to call my ex-T. yeah she doesnt seem much clear. she says she doesnt want but then says oh u can but not always. i think she doesnt want u to become much dependent on her but u can do it if really needed. and when is good thing u achieve i would like to think she would be glad u called? did u tell her why u wanted to call?
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Yes, and the thing that confused me was that I called her a few weeks ago to tell her something similar and then felt bad about it because I thought I'd overstepped a boundary...but she said she was really happy to hear what I'd told her, so I thought maybe that was okay or at least not WRONG to call her. In this situation, it's tricky because if I'd called her it wouldn't have been that I NEEDED her or was dependent on her, but simply that I WANTED to call, so situations like that aren't really things I can resolve on my own...they're her boundaries, not mine, so I think I felt a little annoyed that she was making her boundaries my issue when they're really her issue.