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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
Yeah, I FELT like it was sort of shaming, but I think I might have been being a bit oversensitive and I think she was also a bit frustrated herself and she's just a human being with her own feelings too, so...that? And the thing about availability is annoying/confusing, because in the past I never really thought about her as super available, but then there were two big situations in which I needed her and called (and subsequently felt guilty about it) and she was like, "No problem, let's do a phone session, I have no issue with you calling whatsoever because you're doing what you need to do." And that was the point at which I started trusting her and called maybe one or two other times over less substantial things (like I did this awesome thing and am so proud of myself and you should be too!). And that I think was when our therapeutic relationship really cemented and I started making some really good changes because before that I thought she was sort of unavailable/uninvolved. But then she was there for me when I needed her and that made a HUGE difference to me.
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Yes, but you are paying her to keep her feeling out of the room, her frustrations are nothing to do with you. So if you feel her emotions are coming into your therapy then that is a problem cos they shouldn't be.
Maybe you feel shamed because you have sensed her defending her own boundaries as if you are the one to have stepped all over them when in reality you have done nothing of the sort. It's like you're getting the responsibility of keeping her boundaries for her when that is so not your job.
Maybe she's not very good with boundaries or clear on what hers are, what she is comfortable with versus what is ethical? But again that's not your problem and she needs to speak to her own supervisor to work that stuff out.