I can totally understand why you'd feel that way, attachment stuff is laden with shame and embarrassment and a T has to really work to be gentle and delicate when they are dealing with this. This is exactly why I'm too scared to directly address some of this stuff myself, LOL. It sounds like your T was a bit harsh, it's probably a style she picked up in the past and uses on everyone, many T's seem to have boundaries like this.

I think you might want to discuss it with her actually. Also, try to look at it from the perspective she's most likely doing this to help you, it might be really damaging to you if she lets you get used to the contact and then there is a rupture in the therapy, etc etc... the whole cant be friends and in a therapeutic relationship thing. If she was all about money why not let you pay for as many sessions a week as you want. You need someone to talk to but you have to find them out of therapy, and that wont happen if your T befriends you. I think the biggest error she made was her approach didn't explain why or anything, it just seemed to humiliate you for something that is almost a standard process of therapy.