Granite...

I learned about the "safe place" when I was visiting my son's school and went to his yoga class with him and they did guided imagery... I use it for things that cause me extreme anxiety like the dentist... or during procedures at doctors... (not that this compares to the types of feelings you would be going through but I find it works)

another thing that works for me is when I could signal xT in some way and he would remind me that I am safe and that its not the past...that i'm an adult now and I can protect myself...

I would have a hard time with the safe person as well.