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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
Yes, that's how it felt to me...but that isn't actually what she was saying; she even said explicitly that I had made some really good changes and it was really rewarding for her to see that in me...and yes it is SUPER important for me not to depend on her because a) she doesn't want me to and b) old baggage...
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yeah, but as you know, knowing something in a cognitive way doesn't mean you know it in a feelings way. Sometimes our feelings and the reality don't match up. This happens to me all the time. Where i know what someone meant when they said ABC but i feel like the undertones of what they said were DEF. And then i feel stupid for overreacting to something i know they didn't even mean in that way.
It's really important to look at why you're feeling triggered. What messages is your brain receiving? Presumably it's the old baggage stuff than needs processed again.