Sounds just like my relationship. We're opposites but love being together, great chemistry but he's Christian and I'm... Just not. My man is stuck in a rut too and I know once he's better we'll be better but we both keep saying we just have to make it there.

For me, I try to be positive toward his goals, say motivational things instead of nagging on him, but its hard when he loses his temper, sometimes I just snap too. I realize my man's anger comes from his own frustrations and isn't always about me. For him, I have agreed to give him space and let him try to get out of his rut without me so he can know he did it on his own.

We're not breaking up but giving a week off (we live together and he's going to visit family) so he can focus on himself without worrying about me. Some men just don't want help, they want to feel like they can do it without you (which I hate, but he's big on pride).

We also fight terribly so the short break will hopefully reset us on why we fell for each other in the first place and remind him that he can move his life forward and doesn't "need me." I realize a short bit of time off might not work for you but a vacation with you or on his own might boost his energy and motivation?

My mother always said we fight passionately because we love passionately. I not know if its a good thing but at least we have passion in our lives.