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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
That's sort of the issue because I don't think I AM using her as a friend or something; I have lots of other friends and other people to talk to and share stuff with, and I definitely don't want her to be my friend. I have no desire to see her outside of our sessions and I know someday I won't need her anymore and we will part ways, and I have no issue with that. I don't think I actually AM dependent on her, which is I think why I got annoyed because it seemed to me like she thought I was and was discounting all the progress I've made re. independence and creating my own support system.
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Ah, I see. You know this could be a countertransference issue of hers, you never know. Perhaps she's gotten too close to clients in the past and is defensively projecting her own feelings and fears on to you. No way to tell unless you ask. Do you think she picked up that her response was upsetting you? Another possibility, but could you maybe be reading too much into what she said? It sounds like she didn't forbid anything but was more letting you know, it's better to try it on your own. I wasn't there so there's no way to say for sure, but it might just be a miscommunication, she was in a bad mood, or projecting on to you, or misunderstood you, etc. I think the thing to do is to talk to her about it to find out, but I know that is easier said than done. Anyways, don't beat yourself up about it, I'm sure your T wasn't thinking about the full impact on you given the rupture it caused.