Sometimes, some of the best changes, occur under fire, so to speak. You express desire for change, you wants are very thought out, and rational. Those are some amazing goals, you have, for your next round of therapy(DBT), why not, approach it, as goal based. And perhaps, this time, around, things will start clicking in for you! You've grown tired, of how you feel, well...I hope it works and sticks for you, this time around. Motivate yourself, with reminding yourself, how frustrated and tired of feeling this way you really are.

I"m trying to think, about how to explain, how to not look at another woman, real or in photos/tv without getting jealous and insecure. Is she, the woman you look at, really a threat to you, between the sheets? Is she, truly your rival? Is she or isn't she attractive? And so what, if she is, doesn't mean you've got a sexual identity crisis, on your hands, know what I mean? For instance, so what if Angelina Jolie, is considered beautiful by many? Can you look at her, and go, ok, ok, she's attractive. How, exactly, does this affect me, in all reality? It doesn't. She's an actress and lives somewhere no near me, and she's married and busy.

Another example. I have a crush, celebrity crush, on Milan Lucic. He's from the Boston Bruins. He's attractive, to me, yes. But, is he really the biggest threat, to my beau? No. Is he at the top of every little fantasy that I may or may not have? No. Am I really, picturing him, while in bed? Not, really.

Hope that, helps, just a little.