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mellors said:how can i be to blame when the sexual relationship fails if i was not in control of it in the first place?

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Still thinking about this... I see a fallacy in your argument.

Try this - re-read your posts in this thread, substituting the word "responsibility" in place of the word "control".

IMO, an adult cannot relinquish all responsibility in a sexual relationship and then wonder why it fails.