"Having his parents there in the middle of things isn't helping. Mainly, though, it sounds like he is kind of abusive. That probably isn't ever, ever going to change. You might want to think real hard about leaving.

Another issue is the kids. Are you both the biological parents of the same kids? Is he the father of your daughter? If not, that can be a source of trouble too. Eventually, the kids will be gone and you will be alone with him. Do you look forward to that? Sounds to me like you have been trying very hard for a long time."

his parents are very demanding,more the he is,and he has seen it as a child growing up,they selfishly demand attention,even if they have to complaint about sleepless night.There were times we had to reschedule things or about to reschedule,because his parents-mom more,had a panic attack ,not to stay alone.They do have plenty of medical problems,which we are controlling tight,but has anxiety and panic attack seem to root in selfish desire for constant attention. recently she would not stay home alone even for 5 min.
We have 3 kids and he is the father of all 3,he is also only man I've ever been with,that's why his jealousy is pointless.He loves kids,adores them,he is trying to be different from his parents,but.....The point is I lost myself somewhere on the way of 16 years of marriage,it hurts that at 39 I can not really say what I really want,what is my favorite thing to do. I need to find myself.I started gym,which is a big advancement for me and my H to allow it(during the time our daughter is at a dance class).I don't know,i feel like an automaton..